Others may not feel the same way about valentines day, weather they are in a relationship or not. This day can be the highlight of a break-up, a tragic day or experience in someones life, or even depending on an individual's believe system. What ever the case maybe. this day mean different things for many people, I am one them that does not like the tradition of valentines day.
Valentines day take the creativity out of a relationship that put too much value on the day that is February 14 over other days that have a different date. To be in love is more that one day of candy sharing and flower gaining/giving. Being in love is more that that. And if your a person that need a special day to show a person how much you love them? You should try to go out more and feel more things, and experience more life. Valentines day sway the power of a relationship in a way that can be unhealthy. This is because advertising media may have the perspective of valentines day catering to the female demographic more that the male demo, causing an imbalance in a relationship sometimes. I say that, because of the psychological connection of the day for both sides. While a woman may want to be taken out for dinner, Gaining candy, getting put on a pedestal for this day as a queen while at the same time being expected to put out sex. The day encourages mandatory spending that could be other wised be a creative expression of love. You see most guys think that all it takes is to buy a girl dinner, take to a move, buy her jewelry, or spending of some kind to get laid. They are not looking for love in most cases. Valentines day associate the emotion of love with spending, This can cause an unhealthy view of what real love means. The connection of two souls not by material possessions, But by the true caring and the sensual connection that cannot be duplicated by monetary merchandise.
I think Valentines Day Sucks, Because of the expectations, that is implied from both sides. The woman expects to be showered with gifts and connects that to all emotions for that day. If you are a guy that would rather to write a poem, take a walk on the beach holding hands, share time just connecting as child souls innocently sharing the days of youth, and you are some how crossing paths with a girl that feels that love is about getting her the best gifts, flowers, candy, jewels, and other things. This romance might not last. This makes the idea of Valentines Day Sucks for the fact that is this day was not designated and not historically a capitalistic idea for making money. The expression of love would have been more than just a routine to be practiced and expected. Without getting historical about this day, if you know anything about what Valentines day is from, you would know that it is a religious practice of feasting with family and church families a like. The expression from a man dying to a woman that he cared about, A christian named Saint Valentine who was in jail and persecuted by the Roman empire. This day sucks because knowing that history. Knowing that this idea of marketing money, came about by making a market on a religious practice and tragedy just seems to defeat the true historical meaning of the day. Valentines Day Sucks, to be honest, Today Valentines day stole the part of history that should be inspirational and made it bland and melancholy diverse of true depth and real passion. Marketing the day as a spending event in the western culture. which make many associate the day psychologically to spending and stress and competition, and heart ache creating arguments strife and just the complete opposite of what is marketed. The marketing suggest happy feelings of getting gifts, Sex, candy, Love, Dinner, good times. The truth is that you always find yourself fighting to maintain the idea of love on this day over any other.
Normally you would not have to wait 2 or 3 hours to be seated at a restaurant that you have been to before and have had wonderful times shared, you don't normally need to dine in a rush because, you would now face the possibility of being late to the movie that you planned on seeing or maybe even missing it completely because you are now 3 hours off from you previous planned schedule.
This is now a day the have more people faking the way they feel about a person just because the day is sold to you as a day of love if you spend money. But really you are not enjoying any of it because you may feel cheated and that you get less than what you expect to get out of the day. Sometime the pressure get so much that you can pop. You might not even get laid because of the obstacle of the day just being what it is perceived. I have had some of those experiences before, learned how to deal with them is up to the individual's personality and skills. I suggest making dinner at home and having a picnic at a private place if you can find one, But even better, Just show the person you're with that you love them each day. That what ever you decide to do on this day " Valentines Day" will seem to be just another day to express your love in your own way and not because the commercial marketing guilt's you into it.
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